Saturday, February 21, 2009

The Wedding #9

Sandy told me Waynes mom wanted Wayne to get back with Jolene, she had nothing against me, but thought Wayne should patch up his marriage, I did not like hearing this one bit. His mom always treated me nice when I was over there, I found out many years later that his mom and Jolene were writing to each other, and his mom told her all of our plans and other business. Waynes mom knew he wanted to know what was happening to his kids, even though she knew she kept it a secret, not even telling us Jolene had remarried. Years later when Tonda and Terry came to see us, Tonda told her dad that her step-dad was molesting her, her mom would not believe her. Tonda would put furniture in front of her bedroom door at night, to keep him out, Terry never knew this was going on. Wayne was so mad when he heard this he wanted to fly out there and punch his lights out.

This problem plagued her through the years and it showed in her marriages, three of them, all ended in divorce, and three children. She never went for counciling, and to this day, when she calls her dad she is very depressed. My husband does not like it because Terry took his step-dads last name of Lockwood, he never signed papers to this effect, and this bothers him to this day. Tonda never said if she went by Lockwood in school, but she has everything Cloud now, after what her step-dad did she hated the name Lockwood. Her step-dad had six kids of his own, they lived with him and Tonda said she was never treated right, although Terry said they were good to him.

I guess I was too use to being on my own, after about four months I was starting not to like dating every night, it seemed like being married already. He was hurt when I told him this, I did not mean to hurt his feelings, but come on every night, we ran out of things to do. We tried, but he called a couple times a day and during work he would stop in, and my boss told me he could not hang around during work hours, this didn't stop him. Sometimes he would say after we were married that "I married him to get rid of him", what ever that meant.

We had a good time come summer, there were more things to do, and we started playing bad mitten a lot in my moms back yard. We hung out with my sister Stella and John, which she had started dating around the time I met Wayne. Sandy and Bill were fun to be with, we did have some wicked card games, especially poker, one night we played all night. My sister June and her husband Stan were okay, they were a little stuffy and did not like to do much. We also played cards with his mom and her boyfriend and his brother Tom, his wife Delores. We took turns going to each house on Friday night, Waynes mom was really a funny person, she told great stories, she was a nurse and they would spook each other in the halls at the hospital.

Our wedding date was finally set for July 30th, 1959, we were having Stella and John as Wayne put it our "Best People". There was not much planning because we were being married by the "Justice of the "Peace", we did not have money for a big wedding. I was very nervous, this was a big step for me, I know Wayne was nervous, he said later he thought I would back out before the ceremony. John and Stella took us to dinner at "The White Sands", I thought that was a nice name for a restaurant, after dinner and drinks they drove us home to our apartment. Our apartment had two windows that faced the street, the old woman that lived across the street always sat in her chair that faced us, we had a couch that pulled into a bed, so it was easy to see us in bed. With the excitement of tonight we forgot to close the curtains and I guess she really had a show. Next day we realized we had forgot the curtains,Wayne said she got what a snoop deserves, maybe we should go over and charge her.

My mom gave us a wedding reception on Saturday, we were married on a Thursday, she had invited a few friends and relatives to come, except Wayne's side of the family did not come, only Sandy and Bill, Sandy said her mom was mad, she did not want us to marry, even though she knew for months about it, after all I had an engagement ring on. My reception ended in us leaving early, mom had been drinking too much and picked a fight with Uncle Bud, it was so loud I think the neighbors heard it. I apologized to the guests and we left. I don't know what they were arguing about, but both were drinking, those two never got along anyway. I ended up crying all the way home, I left all the gifts behind, the way I was feeling, I told Wayne I didn't want any of them, deep down I knew I did. By the time I got home I had a real bad headache, I just laid down on the couch, I slept because when I awoke it was dark out and my headache was gone. I realized I had slept in my wedding dress, Wayne came over and held me for awhile, he knew about drinking, his dad was an alcholic and that was the reason his mom divorced him.

20 comments:

Denise said...

My heart goes out to you for what you had to deal with at your wedding reception and I may have said this before but I often hear that out of adversity comes strength and you are a very strong lady and this was once again a very interesting post. Thank you for sharing your life with us out here.

caspersmom said...

Even through adversity your marriage has lasted a long time, so their is love. There was an article in the January Readers Digest on writing memoirs and I thought of you when I read it. Everyone has a story it's just most of us don't know how to put it on paper. Good for you for writing it down.

Renie Burghardt said...

Hi Margaret,

What a story! But all is well that ends well, and you and Wayne/Charles look happy and content after 49 years of being together. I hope Wayne's mother realized what a good thing you were for her son, and what a mess Jolene made of her life. I look forward to the next installment.

Have a wonderful week!

Renie

Kathleen said...

I have an idea of what you went through, Margaret, when you were married. It took my mother in law almost 5 years to speak to me. She did come to the wedding, but my father in law did not. He still doesn't have much to say to me.

ryliej said...

I am getting addicted to your story Ms. Margaret. I love reading pocket books so I feel like I'm reading one of them hahaha.. Can't wait to read the next episode..

chubskulit said...

I feel bad for your step daughter....

john said...

Oh so yourmother in law was running a secret thing against you huh... pretty sneaky!

Koleen said...

Hi Margaret! It is so nice to meet you. Thanks for stopping by and saying Hi. I look forward to hearing from you more. I need all the computer help I can get.

Margaret Cloud said...

Thank you friends for leaving such nice comments.

chubskulit said...

visiting you today Ms. margaret, hope you are feeling great!

Merle said...

Dear Margaret ~~ Another wonderful episode. I am so sorry your reception was spoiled for you. But all is well, you are still together and happy.
Thanks for your comment about the Jack Benny story of Roses. I hope it was true. Glad you liked the jokes. Take care, dear friend,
Love, Merle.

debbie said...

DEAR MARGARET,
I HAVE THREE AWARDS FOR YOU ON MY BLOG UNDER WORDLESS WEDNESDAY. YOU ARE VERY DESERVING OF THEM. I WILL BE BACK TO READ ABOUT THE WEDDING.
DID YOU GET MY E-MAIL THE OTHER DAY
HUGS
BLESSINGS
debbie

Lynn@ The Vintage Nest said...

Hi Margaret, That is such a shame your wedding reception ended the way it did. (I hope you got the gifts.) I love the style of your writing. :)

Gramma Ann said...

Hi Margaret,
I wonder if your mother-in-law ever figured out what a wise choice Wayne made when he married you. I hope she came to her senses and began to appreciate you.

I will be looking forward to another chapter in the life of Margaret and Wayne.

Tea said...

Hi Margaret! I'm at the library so today I'm able to comment on your blog. :)

I'm really enjoyin' reading your story. Very interesting reading!

Patty said...

Good evening Margaret, Since It hasn't let me post (I'm trying again this evening) I sent you and e-mail with what I wanted to post. I'll be waiting for another installment. Today was a beautiful day, sun was out and temp got up to about 55. Very nice after having so much cold weather. Hope all is going well with your son. Love, Patty

Patty said...

Well it worked, every since you made this post, every time I tried to comment it wouldn't show me any word verification, it just kept saying loading. Abe had the same problem so he changed his settings.
Good night.

Femin Susan said...

Your doing great!! Keep up the good work!

Missy said...

I sounds like you had an interesting wedding. Maybe your neighbor learned a lesson? Thanks for sharing!!!

Margaret Cloud said...

Thank you for coming by and commenting.

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